Being told to stop caring what others think always sounds easier than it is.
Mel Robbins’ newest self-help book “The Let Them Theory” explains this concept in a way that’s genuinely effective. By using the two words “let them” readers are able to relinquish control of situations or people they never controlled in the first place. The “let them” theory involves two steps. After saying “let them” readers say, “let me” and focus their time and energy on what parts of their lives they can control.
The second part of the theory does a good job at holding readers accountable. Robbins states many disclaimers about how misusing the “let them” theory can lead to the reader thinking everyone else in their life is the problem. Saying “let me” reminds readers they are responsible for themselves.
Through different examples followed by scientific and psychological evidence, Robbins explains how the theory can be applied to different areas of the reader’s life.
The book is divided into nine parts. Each section explores how to say “let them” in different relationships (platonic, familial and romantic). And situations, focusing on work, dating and comparison.
The way the book is broken up makes it easier to comprehend. Though it is addressed to adults, the advice given can easily be applied to teenager’s lives as well.
Robbins’ examples of how she or people in her life used the let them theory paired with the scientific research she includes makes the theory more credible. The science helps readers understand what’s happening in their brain and bodies when they lose control and feel anxious or stressed – and how the let them theory can counteract that.
There are also visual aids that explain different concepts discussed in the book, which can be helpful for people who learn better visually.
Despite all the examples and research included, Robbins managed to write the book in an entertaining way. Her relatability and obvious passion for helping others makes reading “The Let Them Theory” feel like talking to a friend, who happens to give extremely intelligent advice.
As Robbins repeats that letting others do and think whatever they want isn’t an easy process, she ultimately teaches the reader how to value their time and not waste their energy on things or people they can’t control.
“The Let Them Theory” is the perfect book for people who roll their eyes when told to let something go, but secretly wish they only knew how.
